What to do when their friends suggest leaving?

[Bworl]

More specifically, by insisting on such a narrow scope for a thread, you've created a topic that is quite unusual for this board. Even in circumstances where some DO create a thread with a specific title, they are typically quite open to communication with others, even if it strays a bit from the original intent.

Frankly I think you are missing out on the opportunity to walk through a very difficult time with some allies by your side, even if they are of the cyber variety.

It seems just a tad possible to me that there were some pre-existing irritations regarding certain posters to your thread that, when realized on THIS thread, have totally overshadowed any positive purpose you hoped for it to serve.

I've found that even those who you think have comments least relative to your needs or situation are still capable of occasionally bringing a thought or idea that is useful.

The disintegration of a marriage is enough turmoil for most of us. THIS place should not be the same. And while I understand that you feel attacked by some people here, you should understand that to the outside observer you seem to have some issues that have caused conflict here as well. It does NOT need to be this way.

We're all in these messes together when we choose to interact with each other here. My hope is for every failing marriage on this board to be healed if possible. And if not, I hope those who have been devastated by a spouse turning their back on them can find the clarity and strength they need to press forward with their lives in a positive and productive way.

I've met few people here who I would classify as trolls. And while I have had some back and forth with robx in the past, I certainly would not classify him as one. He does have a particular bent - but so do we all. That is why the AUTHOR of the thread is ultimately the one who decides.

Coach/Greek are a fine couple who have been through a version of this marital mess. They have helped many people on here find balance and stability in the midst of the storm. You may not agree with their advice, you may not agree with them disagreeing with you, but to impune their well deserved reputation here does not do you much good.

Maybe a new thread would give others a chance to start fresh with you and your situation. Or maybe you've decided that you've moved beyond this place, or it simply doesn't fit your needs. In either case, I hope you can do something to lessen the tension on this or any future thread. There is great value in the back and forth that we have with one another, even to those who are simply watching and reading, not participating actively. You've brought an interesting topic to the table, one that I'm sure others have also wondered about. If we can get beyond the playground mentality, it actually could be helpful to others.


Blessings,

Bill