The adventure continues--reruns

[AFWAW]

Do you golf?

I'm learning--one of my new hobbies. Fun but expensive.

It will get easier. Distance, km and timewise will make it easier.

I know it will. It just feels like somedays that it won't.

[AFWAW]

GREAT town!!! The desert is beautiful in its own way -- I really liked it. My wife -- ehh, not so much.

I've heard nothing but good about the area. While I'm disappointed about not going to Key West, I've done some extensive research about Tucson and am getting excited. As far as my wife not liking the area, well, that's one thing I don't have to worry about anymore

[AFWAW]

There is a DB gathering being planned for the Tucson area--how soon do you move?? Sorry your W is being a PITA. My exH is the same way.

I will be there the middle of October. Yes, she is being a pain.

What he sees as me 'supporting him'= agreeing with everything his says and blindly following his plans without question or argument. If ever I interject a question or opinion, he turns nasty and says I never support him...and whenever his plans don't turn out he immediately looks oustide himself for someone to blame. That gets exhausting!

I hear what you're saying. I picked up my daughter and she told me that the wife is trying to justify our divorce to my daughter. I asked what she meant and she said, well, Mommy said that you two weren't compatible and that Daddy is aging worse than me, what do you think? I laughed and asked my daughter if she thought that it was appropriate that her Mom was asking and saying these things to her. She said no and went on to say that she wasn't stupid in that Mommy had a BF, Mommy left and boy does she look rough. Daddy, I can't believe that you've finally realized that it's not going to work.

So, no matter how bad I feel at times, it apparently pales in comparison to how the wife is feeling and acting. While I'm not really vindictive in nature it is somewhat satisfying to know that life is not exactly a bed of roses for her either.

[AFWAW]

Well, tomorrow is the day. My wife somehow found out about the court hearing(I assume by calling the court) and has emailed and called my work all day! She intends to show up to the hearing--her right I guess, but there is no need as she has already signed the papers. She also said in her email that she has recieved orders to Korea! Wow, I know she cannot be happy about that.

So at 0900 tomorrow I will be officially divorced. Weird. Not what I hoped for but I think I gave it my all and more. Hopefully the wife doesn't show up and start drama in the courthouse. Trying to keep a positive outlook but it has been difficult at times. I guess it could always be worse than it is.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

[quote=AFWAW]

So at 0900 tomorrow I will be officially divorced. Weird. Not what I hoped for but I think I gave it my all and more. [/quote


You absolutely did, John. I tip my cap to you -- strength and honor. Hold your head high, buddy.

Puppy

[futureunknown]

AFWAW- I have followed your whole story, from your first post, and you should know you acted with honor. You gave your W every possible chance. Good luck with your new future!

[AFWAW]

So, this will be my last post in Newcomers and I will be moving over to surviving the big D. Well, apparently my now ex-wife is already dating or maybe she never stopped. My daughter just got home and told me that while she and her girlfriend were out shopping my ex was out on a date in the same shopping center. She went even one step further and told me daughter they had been dating for 2 weeks. We just got divorced 4 days ago. I know it shouldn't bother me but it does. Oh well, we are officially divorced so she can do what she wants now. She sure isn't letting any grass grow under her feet. I just wish she would refrain from "dating" in front of my daughter.

[antlers]

I'm sorry it turned out the way it did. You fought like hell...you did everything you could have done...and then some.
The feelings you're having are normal, and in time, they will go away.
Millions of people have gone through the crap we're going through, and they went on to live happy and fulfilled lives. I believe that you will live a happy and fulfilled life too.