Why not take the opportunity to ask if she is still planning to leave. If she says, "We should redo the kitchen", you say, "I don't need a new kitchen if you're moving to the apartment." She might be looking for a way to tell you she is not moving.
Yes, and women in particular like to HINT rather than say things outright...
I say accept the hint and don't pressure her.. It's just pursuit if you do try to get a straight answer from her - no relationship talk is right out of the book.
Allen, it's not "pursuit" the way Lotus has it phrased above. Pursuit would be OIN, suggesting to his wife that they remodel.
His wife is on record as saying she's leaving. I'm not necessarily advocating a "What are your intentions regarding this marriage?" convo today (altho I do think it needs to happen), but I certainly think that if SHE keeps bringing up these home improvement projects, household logistics, expenditures, etc., then OIN should just take the opportunity to ask her what her intentions are.
