Glad to see your marriage is coming back together. Awesome.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Hope you enjoy your "me time." Sounds like it is already going well. Maybe you just needed some space from this sitch. IC might be a good thing to help you push past this place. The chemo situation alone is enough to make you need extra support right now. Times of sickness in families are dangerous for relationships it seems.
Changing and refreshing the home is very symbolic...what a good focus .
I agree with rr22. Wishing your father well.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
New sheets, duvet cover for the bedroom, flowers and new flower pots for the veranda, tablecloth for the living room table, found some cabinets for the bathroom (didnt order them but I think I will) and going...
H called and he sounded worried about the money I am spending. He didnt say a word but I think I heard a questionmark about how much all this is going to cost. This is ONE time in my life I dont feel guilty spending his money. Afterall, it's all for our home that I couldnt improve while he was gone or "gone" before gone-gone. Let's see if men really do like to provide for their families... LOL
Maria - Keep up with improving your living environment. Doing so creates a positive mental environment which can only help your overall cheerfullness which will cause good things to come your way. Dont worry about how much it costs.
Thanks Kerry, I am in no way exaggerating. So I am not worried. And he knows i am very careful with money (his money-not mine) that's why he gave me his card when he left...
Another fact about marriages that is thrown about is, that, the longer you stay together through difficult times, the better the chance the marriage will stay put. That IS, of course, that the other spouse is willing to do the work.
A Retrouvaille priest once said to me and XW:
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One day, you want to look out from your porch at your grandchildren playing on the lawn, and then look at your spouse and say, "thank G-d we made it through those tough times."
Not to be for me Kalni, but, you have a shot.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
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