Hi Jackie - Just wanted to wish you a happy thanksgiving. I'll be around for a while tomorrow, but then will be away from the computer until Monday. I'll be thinking of you and your family, and you will be in my prayers.
Mockers2
"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Thanks for consitently keeping me thinking and sane.
H called today to see if S4 and I were available for lunch. We went and had a nice time. He even asked us to pick him up at work, I didn't go in, though.
H held my hand a bit in the car and said something at lunch about rebuilding us. We even talked about getting a new house when we get back together to start new memories. He has an appointment with a therapist for next week (watch after all my hoping he sees someone, she'll just tell him that he needs someone to meet his needs and I'm obviously not that person.)
So as we were talking, I asked him, "what are you doing Saturday night?" Why? I told him not to answer a question with a question, he said nothing, I said, okay, I'll pick you up at 6:30. So we have a date. That is making the assumption that my Ps will watch the kids while they are up.
On the way back to work he said Saturday will give us time to talk and he said that it is amazing that you don't know what you have until you don't have it anymore.
Wow, Jackie! Reminds me of the first time I really remember my H holding my hand after the bomb. It was about 3 weeks after I discovered the affair, 3 months after the ILYBINILWY speech. We were driving home from a weekend business trip in L.A., and he held my hand the whole drive home.
Now mind you - he was still planning on moving out at that time, took 3 more weeks to get an ILY out of him, and 2 1/2 months for him to finally tell the OW to quit contacting him - but it was a start.
Now - what are you doing Saturday night? Do NOT go out to dinner and sit and "talk" - surefire way to get into a teary R talk. I recommend a comedy club, if possible - if not, then the scariest movie you can find, or some other adrenaline-filled activity -go-karts? Rollercoasters?
Also - wear that new V.S. underwear, and make sure some of it shows! Wear something low-cut so he has to focus on your cleavage. And check out Indecence by Givenchy - my H gave me this perfume, and whenever I wear it, men ALWAYS comment on it.
Do so many 180s he will feel like he is dating a whole new woman. My H even gave me a new name and called me his "new" girlfriend! He's telling you he wants a new life, so give him a new wife!
Wooooooooohooooooooooo! I am soooooooo excited!!!!!!!!
Now that that's out of my system...... Patience, patience, patience................
I'll be thinking of you and your family this weekend.
This all sounds so good!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mockers2
"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Happy Thanksgiving, Jackie! I am doing it one day early because I work tomorrow and I will probably have little time to be on the board. But I'll be thinking of you and the kids.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Patience, patience, patience................