There is a DB gathering being planned for the Tucson area--how soon do you move?? Sorry your W is being a PITA. My exH is the same way.
What he sees as me 'supporting him'= agreeing with everything his says and blindly following his plans without question or argument. If ever I interject a question or opinion, he turns nasty and says I never support him...and whenever his plans don't turn out he immediately looks oustide himself for someone to blame. That gets exhausting!