Eric, Just catching up a bit on you, I need to go back a little further but for now I can say, yes when you don't see them day to day, it helps. The hills and valleys are not as steep on the rollercoaster.
I try not to think about what my W is thinking, but that is hard. I find that if I start trying to guess what she is thinking then that leads me to make "judgements" and that leads to anger which at that point is produced by me.
As much as I can, I try to have compassion for my W, even though I know she is involved with OM. I just try to remember that this is not the woman I married and I do see her struggle at times which tells me that somewhere down in the green alien goo, she is trying to get out. Granted she will not be the same person she was before but I think she will find her moral compass again.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
