Well, I think today I'll be able to use Kat's wonderful script--it's an interesting Monday that is for sure!
Wow--I don't know where to start.
Ok, my H snooped in my email--something I don't think I've ever seen him do. He found an email about a friend's horse--friend cannot keep her horse, she got divorced and has pretty much nothing except this horse she's had since it was 2.
My horse is gone, I told her to bring over hers until we figure out what to do with it. We have to find it a home.
In my email I am telling her that I want to tell my H, but didn't do it yet to see if her horse would be OK here. I mentioned that he may have a "fit" but we would figure out something else. So her horse has been here 3 days and he didn't really know. I never told him about putting down my other one.
Well, he read this and blew up and it's not that he's mad about the horse, he's mad about how I did this behind his back.
I asked him "are you my friend right now?" and he said "no". I said then I can't talk to you and this is the result. I want to help out a friend, her horse isn't costing you a penny, and besides, he let a friend of HIS have a horse here for 2 years one time and it's basically the same arraingement--I'll just keep her and my friend will pay for her food until we figure out where she can go.
And also, he has a friend's old junker car here in the backyard while the friend has his OWN 5 acre place and yet he allows friend to keep his car here for, hm...6 years now??!!
So he left with S and has a dentist appointment--lots of threats, cursing, you need to leave, etc.
I felt maybe about 5 or 10 minutes of my stomach "sinking" with that sick, scared feeling. Then I called my friend and told her what happened, and that I am making a stand on this--he is NOT going to bully me and basically I think I'm ready to "die on this hill". I am so over him.
Then our financial advisor called. He is a guy I have never met face-to-face, but I have spoekn to him many times. He is a long-time friend of my H's family and he is always super, super sweet on the phone and sends us Xmas cards with a beautiful family etc.
I just sort of "confessed" what I figured he already knew from my H's dad (they go to lunch once a week and talk), that we are having horrible problems and I didn't think now was a great time to go over finances.
Well, he tells me that he and my H are very, VERY similar--I'm like, uh, have you ever been verbally abusive (figuring I would stop him in his tracks right there) and he says YES--that he has been abusive to HIS W!! I am in shock--don't believe the guy actually. He is a Christian, and he tells me that he hasn't told ANYONE about this--that he feels led to tell me!!
So we proceed to have this amazing, heart-to-heart talk and I just am so uplifted right now! He is going to tell his W what he has done, and ask her to speak to me--and...I'm just again, amazed.
Does God care about us or what??
So, it is an interesting Monday--my plan is to maybe go dark until I can figure out what I want. I have given and given and given and I'm done. My friends and their problems are more important right now. I guess that is a terrible attitude, but my H just doesn't want to work on anything and has zero respect or appreciation. I have made a ton of mistakes, but I AM TRYING. Here I am doing EVERYTHING again, and I get NOTHING from him.
