The best thing to do for you right now, is to do for you. Just like Snodderly said above.
Things are not always as they appear, and the monsters you are letting in your head will drive you nuts.
This is hard, surviving a spouse in MLC is most difficult thing you will ever stare down. It will rock your sense of self worth and question every piece of rationality that you have.
The ONLY way to have a shred of a chance, is to live for you. Fix you. Work on you...
There are no guarantees in this, that your marriage will be rebuilt.
The only guarantee is that YOU will come through this a better , stronger person, and that is all that matters.
Take this time to really evaluate the things in life that YOU want.
Realistically, that is what he is doing...
Only thing is, You get to do that without all of the confusion, lying, and manipulation that our MLCers do it with.
In time, you will view this as a gift from him to you. One that allowed you to become the person you want/need to be.
There will be down times. Spend that time in the resources,and archives, really understand this thing called MLC.
In time, you will realize that success, and what you consider being a success, will depend on you, and not your marital status.
This is YOUR time Rlay.....
My advice would be for you to dig down deep, understand MLC, and then work on you before you make any decisions regarding your future...
