Newbie.Trying with faith and hope to save marriage

[timehealsall]

I just can't breathe. I can't believe that he ended a 9 year relationship in a short phone call and does not want to see me. He's up there, new life escaping reality. I havent seen him in two months. He called and dropped the bomb thre weeks ago,

I want to go there one evening(2 hours awaY) and I will not cry, will not scream, will not beg, I will be respectful.

I am going to say.
We did not get married until it got really bad. We got married for life. We both hit rock bottom and we are both now getting better. He cannot direct the marriage to end on a phone call. That is disrespeting the sanctity of the marriage. When you are ready for both of us as H and W to sit and discuss our marriage, the fate of our marriage, whatever that may be, then call me. But a marriage is between me and you, the two of us. Not you me and OW.

Then I'm going to leave. THen I will call OW and tell her I'm H's wife and would like for her to stay away.
Then Im going to tell his parents. THough his mom is a WAS and when i called her after he dropped the bomb all she said was, he doesnt love you anymore. there's nothing i can do.

Hugs to you sweetheart.

It seems he comes from a family of runners...

I know the desparation you are feeling. Be strong.