My only documentation is this site. But it doesn't really matter. We've reached agreement on the custody part. She's going to have physical residence and I'm going to pay her child support below what the court would order.
It's not the best, but I'm good with my money and will be fine. She's terrible with hers and is sinking faster than the Titanic.
I could fight, fight, fight and if I don't win I'll have blown what money I will receive.
Today, I picked up D11, then met D7 at the bus and since it was 92 degrees out we rushed over to my uncle's for an hours worth of swimming.
Whatever happens with STBXW and I, it's times like these I want the girls to remember when they are all grown up.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
Today, I picked up D11, then met D7 at the bus and since it was 92 degrees out we rushed over to my uncle's for an hours worth of swimming. Whatever happens with STBXW and I, it's times like these I want the girls to remember when they are all grown up.
And they will. Trust me. Been through this once before when S's were 12 and 14. They are fine. Our relationships today are strong. Keep going.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Went to work as usual, came home to wonderful home-made supper by a dear friend, popped the cork on a very nice bottle of wine that I shared with aforementioned friend. Put on a collection of music & cried for a love lost, posted on here to document the event, went to bed.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
Quick question to those who are officially Divorced? What did you do on the day it became official?
Here's what I did from my D day post:
Originally Posted By: Gardener
Day Journaling, Friends, It was surprising how much at peace and how calm I was in court through the proceedings this morning. Even during the drive home.I walked into the house, into the kitchen and - as I just told gima - had a kitchen/dishtowel sobbing meltdown similar to his bathroom/towel scene last night. What a very, very deep place within the soul, the heart, the psyche that comes from when it does erupt. And erupt it did.
I was alternately okay and not okay throughout the afternoon and evening. Even though it's fifteen months today since I came home from retreat and she announced out of the blue "I got an apartment," and you would think that these ensuing months would have steeled me for the inevitable, I suddenly felt awfully lost and so very alone in this house today and tonight.
I kept myself busy by readying the house for a 5:15 showing, killing time at Borders during the showing reading some Stosny. A couple of emails and calls from friends, a couple of sentimental/reflective postings put on FB, a couple of hours on this board leaving me and mine behind and offering what I could to you and yours.
After that, a deep, long sleep followed by switching over to a somewhat different - though similar - roller coaster the next morning. Be ready for anything. Keep yourself busy or idle, alone or surrounded by loved ones. Whatever you need, whatever works for you.
Last edited by Gardener; 05/25/1012:33 PM.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I would have to look and see if I posted here that day. In my case we never saw the inside of a courtoom, exH never had an attorney, and I met with mine fewer than 5 times, total. I dropped off our signed papers with my attorney on a Friday, the following Monday was President's Day, he said he would get them over to the judge "Probably Tuesday"...I didn't know for sure when our D was finalized until a week or two later when I got my copy of the decree in the mail...pretty anticlimactic....
I dropped off our signed papers with my attorney on a Friday, the following Monday was President's Day, he said he would get them over to the judge "Probably Tuesday"...I didn't know for sure when our D was finalized until a week or two later when I got my copy of the decree in the mail...pretty anticlimactic....
Mine was the same. A year after we separated X was able to give a deposition that we had lived apart for a year and file the paperwork necessary. I found out I was divorced, a few days after the judge signed it, by looking online. Within two weeks X was married to OW.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Quick question to those who are officially Divorced? What did you do on the day it became official?
I'm going to do something I haven't been able to do in almost 4 year. Ready???
Have friends over for dinner and cook for them.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Ok I must be the sobber. I cried for about 5 minutes and then took my kids out to dinner. Not thrilling huh? Maybe I should have burned some of the many things he left behind. (evil grin).
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
