The U-haul has come and I should go

[mockers2]

Half the time I don't know what I'm thinking. No wonder I confuse him and everyone else.

Just a gentle word of caution (that I should listen to also ) - I know you're kind of kidding here, but be kind to yourself. You are handling an extremely stressful time beautifully. Give yourself a break. This is a confusing ride.

Though, some of the best exchanges we have had are either late at night or via email.

Could you validate when he brings the R subjects up - this helps him see you're listening and gives you time to think through things before talking to him about it. Also, it may lessen the feeling you have of trying to say the right thing/the thing he wants to hear. Then when you feel he might be receptive - late at night or through email - maybe bring up your thoughts?

Another idea would be to validate while he's talking then let him know when you've thought things through that you'd like to talk a little bit more about XYZ, whenever he feels ready/comfortable/etc.

You know him best, Jackie. Trust your instincts about what to do.

Probably where validating would be the best course of action instead of offering my opinions. Just think of myself on a fact gathering mission.

This is what I was trying to say. I think this is a good plan.


I see some very hopeful things in your post, Jackie. It is good that he's talking. You are doing a great job. (((((Jackie))))))