So I decided. I want to call him after she's born. I want him to come to the hospital and see her maybe 3-4 hours afterward. I want his sister/mom to bring the baby out to see him in the lobby or hallway. They'll have 15 minutes or so, however long he wants up to 30 min probably.
Then I'm guessing he'll wonder what he should do and he'll ask them to ask me. And I'll tell him-- go home. (This is what he chose, right? I'm hoping that giving him exactly what he's been wanting will help him to suddenly regret and doubt.)
Then I'll call him the next day to see when he wants to see her again.
That's my plan. In my email, I'm not going to ask if he wants to know about labor. I'm just going to tell him that I'll let him know when she's born.
Right now, this plan gives me the most peace. It's consistent with how the pregnancy has been and it may prompt him to double-think about what he's doing.
