I feel after the opening up, he will pull back. I don't think I'm quick enough to respond when we talk, I want to think about things and then respond. As when I respond, it isn't what he is looking for.
I'm not totally sure I understand what you mean by the end of this...I interpreted it to mean that you don't always feel prepared to talk when he first brings this up but then when you reinitiate a conversation he doesn't want to talk about it again? Or did you mean that when you bring it up again it appears that how you interpreted the conversation isn't what he meant?
I think I'm having a brain cramp!
Would you say that in your R -- h is a talker? Are you a talker?
Quote: I want to email him and explain to him my reasoining on the issue statement, my thoughts on repairing Rs with family (I think my family will do what I ask them and it won't be that difficult) and a suggestion Ellie gave me that we should have date nights where we just have fun and have no R talk. Should I bring this up in a eamil or conversation or should I sit on it and wait until he brings it up?
You've talked about a bit of a cycle with h...he gets a bit closer then moves away...do you think that bringing this all up in an email with help or hurt that cycle? IOW, do you think that he gets overloaded with R talk and pulls away? If so...I'd say maybe sit on this for a while...
What do you think about actually planning a "date" and asking him to go (as opposed to telling him that you're going to do that?)
Just babbling, Sage
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