My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

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The same with your H. He is depressed and the OW, irrational behavior, moodiness, etc. is all symptoms of the virus depression

Maybe he is just depressed because he can't run away to planet fruitopia with the OW on his magic unicorn? Maybe being around his family and W feel like huge burdens that are holding him back from his big escape to lala land?

I say this not to be cruel, but you are saying the affair is a symptom of the depression, and that the depression is not a symptom of the affair and the choices that her H is making and confronting, the battle going on inside his head right now.

I don't see how you can make that diagnosis.

Going dark (as possible) is probably a good idea if for no other reason that for nichole to protect herself from the disrespect that is the byproduct of his obsession because he is blaming her and everything in his current life just about for holding him back.


Now, if the guy weren't having an EA, then this would be another ball of string.

It is clearly a chicken and egg type of problem (but note, the egg came before the chicken. There were eggs long before chickens. Slowly, with lots of tiny changes over millions of years, eggs began producing chickens that produced eggs).

While there is an EA (assuming that is still ongoing), there is no deeper digging that is going to happen, I think.

Counseling would be good, but is he going to seek it?