Need a Plan for My Marriage

[LSG]

DLS,

I agree she will continue to do what she is doing. My beloved W is gone for good. She will never be back. I guess the last few days I have been crying over the loss of her. It is good to admit it is finally over. I know I will grieve many more days over her until I have finally put closure on our relationship someday for good. I hope for that day as soon as possible. I truly am disgusted by the woman more and more. I just want to be away from her. I could not have said this IDU a few weeks ago, but I can truly say it now. I can say about her that I am not in love with who she is.

[DaddyLongShanks]

LSG,

She may come out of it several years down the road. Usually it unravels, and you may get an apology after you have already moved on.

[LSG]

DLS,

I seriously do not believe I would ever take her back. I have moved on so much since she filed for divorce. I cannot believe it myself. My biggest worry is if I even considered for moment we had a chance would she do it again. If she did, would she not make the mistakes she did this time by leaving so much evidence. Would she set up her life to take the kids away with me not having a chance of winning custody. I do not like the chances that I will lose so much more than I may now. Which could be everything. I want my kids as much as possible, and I have a good chance of possibly gaining custody. I need to think about that now. I do not have any respect for her at all. I have nothing but contempt and disgust for her. It would take an awful lot to gain that back from her if that is possible.

I just don't like her at all!!!

I need to focus on getting the money to hire my attorney soon to put an end to the games that she is playing with the divorce. The attornies say she is being evil in her paperwork to me. She is also playing games with dates and disclosure of information. I need an attorney that will take no BS. I told the attornies I need them to be real nasty and fight for everything they can get for me and my kids. I will go for everything I can because I deserve it, and she deserves to feel the pain and hurt she has made me and the kids go through.

I hate when I feel any emotions over her because she is not worth my love anymore!!! She destroyed a family, and she has no conscience and remorse for what she has done and is doing.

[TimeHeals]

It would be nice to be able to go into Divorce thinking, I have done all I can do, this is the right thing to do because I deserve better, and I am not angry, sad, etc.

Unfortunately, kids complicate things, and the Xs have a way of trying to make sure you stay angry.

Hopefully, you get to a point where this is just business, and in business you get the best deal you can for yourself no matter what. After all, that's just good business.

[DaddyLongShanks]

Screw her dude. you know your not wrong, but thats not how she's going to play this situation.

[LSG]

Hi TimeHeals,

I am ready for D because I do feel I have done all I can do. I have had enough. I am done with this selfish woman. She has tried to destroy me and has destroyed our family. She is a cheat and does not even care. She is probably talking or texting him right now. I want her so much out of my life. She is playing this great mom act while having an A and turning the kids against me.

I am so tired of her and the act she is playing.

I cannot wait until it is just business, and I have my own life with the kids.

[LSG]

I could care less about her. I just want her to be gone and have my own life with my goals that do not include her. She is so not worth the paper our marriage is written on.

[DaddyLongShanks]

Thanks. I'm feeling the same way. And I'm no quitter. I'm just looking at the W's valuation of me, and finally listening.

[LSG]

DLS,

I have been no quitter in our M too, but I just don't give a dam. She is so twisted in what she has done. I should have left a long time ago. If it were not for the kids I would have. The deserved me to give a shot, and I did. Now I am done trying. It is over! I will fight with everything I have in me for the kids.

[DaddyLongShanks]

Mine put "child support" on me. I didn't know they could do tht in the state of TX to someone who is married. I don't mind my kids getting their money, but obviously pinhead thinks this is a better deal for her. They would have gotten more money from me not being kicked out.

Whatever, anyway LSG, this is your thread and if you need support let me know. Sometimes it is were dealing with someone who is currently doing "stupid" and "hard head", why should we beat ourself up about it?