What to do when their friends suggest leaving?

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Good luck with everything!

I am confused as to why you gloss over the two experiences I shared with you (and yes, one was about friends) and continue to state I have veered off topic.

Actually CG, no, one was not about friends.

I can relate because I had the SAME experience in my marriage except the situation was not with friends.

And I did read your post. And really, I felt for you in that, because you did experience the "Displaced animosity" I have talked about . . .but that has nothing really to do with dealing with friends giving bad advice.

I also stand by my thought that 'small shifts' can be far more helpful that 'mitigation'.

For the sake of argument, lets assume that's an absolute truth. (though it isn't)

That' would be all well and good, but that doesn't mean that mitigation of bad advice from friends AND "small shifts wouldn't be even more beneficial, than either alone.

Rob or Coach haven't posted to this thread in days. I have yet I hear the same thing over and over again about THEM in response to my posts.

Well, you brought it up in post number #2006893, and since my previous post was the first time I'd been back, I was addressing points you raided in your back to back posts.

Clearly I am not being helpful to you so I will refrain from further comment!

Well . . . that's your right. But again, aside from your giving me your insight and personal experience on displaced animosity, which I did appreciate, you were in fact giving me advice I neither asked for nor particularly wanted, since I'm doing quite well in that department on my own.

What I wanted was to hear about others experiences with trying to mitigate damage caused by bad advice being given our spouses by their friends, or family or even co-workers for that matter.

I think two people actually did that, and unfortunately, bantering about off topic 'helpful advice' I didn't need ,ask for, or particularly want, and defending my character from unwarranted and laughably inaccurate assertions has taken away from even that.

Heck, I might try a third time with this topic as a new thread, or on the other hand . . .I might just blow this joint because of the sanctimonious twits who like puppeteering people who are truly hurting, emotionally unstable, and in need, just to satisfy their own egos as they pretend to be experts.

Suggestion, CG:

When someone isn't looking for advice or neophite character assessment, but is looking for shared anecdotal personal experiences . . . . If you don't have a relevant anecdotal personal experience . . . . best to just bypass it and find someone who is emotionally confused enough to allow some of you to pull the strings that make ya feel so high and mighty.

I know . . . you didn't ask for this advice . . . . annoying, isn't it?