You all may be right. I still wonder though. How does this type of action (i.e. 'testing the waters') figure in with the overall scheme of things with MLC? I've read tons of experiences here that indicate the MLC spouse typically buys a one-way ticket to La-La land. With my wife, okay, maybe she is seeing how she feels without the ring on her finger. At the same time, why do alot of her actions and words suggest that she is far from letting go of her commitment to me? I know the ring's a big one (especially for a woman). However, although we certainly don't have intimate relationship/future talks these days, there's still alot of "we" in her words/actions.
As a few recent examples:
[list] [*]She'll come over and spend a couple of [intimate] hours helping me with landscaping. [*]We had an annual board meeting for our housing community last Wednesday. There was a big vote that could affect the parking status for house owners' vehicles. Long story short, my wife has zero obligation or emotional connection to this issue, yet gets very animated, wants to be part of the meeting, talks about how this issue will impact "us", how they (housing association) have no right to have access to personal information about "our" cars that park here (MY car parks here. HER car parks ohhhhhh, a few miles down the road.....in an apartment complex) [*]She'll show up and tend to a Rose Bush in our front yard for an hour, come in and have dinner as part of the family like she never moved out, then go back to her apartment. Huh?!?! [*]Today she spend about 20 minutes helping me trim some Mum's that I am growing in a pot on our deck. We joked a little, had a couple of laughs together...then she runs off and hides again in her little cave...
There's plenty more examples, but I'll leave it at that for now. The Rose bush example happened yesterday. When she showed up, she walked in the kitchen, grabbed a pair of scissors, and asked this curious question along the lines of, "Do you trust me to do this. I don't want to mess things up?" All along the last 8 months or so she's been [trying to] projecting blame on me. But, this quirky question made my 'Spidey Sense' shake like a 10.2 earthquake. My intuition told me it was a Freudian slip kind of a thing where she was trying to communicate/admit culpability [indirectly albeit], but it was coming from seem deeper sub-conscious level. Same thing with the ring. It's obvious she's testing boundaries, but I sense very strongly that this 'rebellion' is coming from maybe her MLC alter ego, or possibly because of influence from DJ in China.
I know, I know...grasping for straws and all that. My intuition usually never fails me though. Wellllll, except for that huge, gaping black hole where I missed the boat on my wife's EA with DJ starting last Fall... Okay, my instincts 'almost' never fail me...
