a few weeks to get my ducks in a row and formulate a plan and come up with proof of her infidelity. I also have access to all the paper work concering her giving up custody of her first two kids to the abuser's mother, including signing away of parental rights. I also can produce her pay stubs , showing that even on unemployment I collect at least two times the amount of her net bi weekly pay. Of course once I start back to work it will be three to four times higher. I can talk to my bankcruptcy attorney about stalling for more time in the current house, even though I suspect I already know the answer. I've already taken steps to look at two , 2 bedroom places with in my budget , the kids can have the rooms , I'll take the couch.
She cant even afford the insurance to put her SUV on the road unless its in my name and under my policy.
I also know that it strengthens my hand if I file for custody first. Im content to play dumb for now and gather my forces.
My question is. Do I go for custody , honestly feeling its best for my kids and forsaking ANY possibility of salvaging our relationship for a VERY long time ?
Maybe when Im all ready to go and I confront her and have the papers ready to file someone ( a third party thats concerned and she'll listen to) will be able to get through to her that she's picking a fight she cannot possibly win and she'll consider trying to work on our relationship
Or do I let things lie pat , giving her her space , and hoping that with time I can win her back ?
I want to make CLEAR that we are NOT legally married. We have been together for almost 14 years , since right after she left her abusive ex and they never got a divorce. I also just recently ( a few months ago ) paid over 300 bucks for a warrant that was out for her for a long forgotten and thought was rectified court fine over a misdemeanor summons.
I think I have MORE then enough to sway a judge, but Im anxious just the same , cause if I go " scorched earth " and still lose , thats it for us Im certain. Oh BTW , there is NO WAY she can afford an attorney ( actually neither can I unless my folks help out or I can find one that takes installments )
