Game Point

[tryingtilDorR]

I decided to visit my IC this week after not talking to her for about 4 months. One question I had for her was 'am I ready to meet new people or should I be waiting longer?'

Her advice knowing what has gone on over the past 2 years was that I am ready and that I needed to take it slow, and obviously not involve my kids with new friends or partners during this difficult time of adjustment for them.

She said that I am 'over' my W it sounds like, particularly because of the way I described the grieving process I went through over the past 18 months, with small steps along the way.

I told my W tonight that she really needs to finish moving out, that her being half-in and half-out is not a good situation.

My IC told me that I will need to be very aggressive and set boundaries in this area very soon, because based upon what she knows my W will cake-eat as much as possible by staying around the house when it is convenient for her, but that it is actually more confusing for our kids that way.