My wedding anniversary is coming up next week. I'm not pursuing, not contacting, not inviting, etc. We talk on average a few times per week. How should I handle the anniversary? I am really not willing/up to getting together even if he asks (which he may not), so I was planning to not contact him, and if he asks me to do something that day, make an excuse and say we can get together the next day instead.

I don't think I can be pleasant that day. I'm acutally dreading it. But I know I'm to appear upbeat. Advice?

Thank you in advance


M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years