A dog will forget that kind of thing instantly and just be happy to see the master. Humans are not so forgiving, nor should they be. There is a modicum of respect for another human being that is necessary.
Many dogs will tear the house apart if neglected... You need to give dogs more credit for their ability to protest and stand up for themselves.
W went to work this morning, before she left she told me she was leaving and I said "OK, drive safely." W sound pleasant enough when she told me she was taking off for work. Usually I walk downstairs with her and lock the door behind her but the past couple days I have not, I remained in bed.
I woke up early this morning, I had a flag football tournament to play in. W got hom her usual time. When I arrived home I ahd to run in the door and up the stairs into the bathroom, I had cut my hand and I was bleeding all over. W actually showed a bit of concern, usually she would remain silent and in this instance she wanted to know what happened or how it happened.
While I was gone and since she had been home my W cleaned the kitchen, even doing the dishes and she had also cleaned the bathroom. I hopped in the shower and she went to lay down.
I know you say playing the games and hanging out is not really anything, but when you go from "I wasted 10 years of my life on you and wont waste another minute" to us actually having a good time together is a positive to me.
Also I just want to say, I DO PLAN ON HAVING the talk with my W but I am going to give it a week or so before I do. It is not that I wont it is just the timing as to when I will.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
OIN I think if OM stays away you should see an increase in her cooperativeness... OM needs to keep that cord solidly CUT though... He's been quite clumsy about it... Maybe the latest blow up did the trick...
The better days are rare early on, but you should see a VERY GRADUAL improvement in her attitude over the next few months if you keep at it and OM keeps clear of your wife...
Just keep doin what you're doin... you should see up and down days still, but a gradual increase in up days and gradual decrease in down days... that's how it goes... it may take three months for her to get back to normal assuming there is no more interaction and she has firmly given up on him now.
I know you say playing the games and hanging out is not really anything, but when you go from "I wasted 10 years of my life on you and wont waste another minute" to us actually having a good time together is a positive to me.
No, I did NOT say it was nothing -- please re-read my post. I said that it's more important that she indicate that she actually wants to TRY TO RECONCILE, and begins to treat you with more respect, than it is that she plays games and messes around with the dogs with you.
After W woke up we watched a comedy DVD and after we watched a few of our favorite TV shows. We had a few good laughs, at one point the dog jumped on W while she was sitting on the couch and began to lick my W face relentlessly causing W to fall back on me, W did not seem too haste in getting up.
W made a comment about turning our front window into a bay window and so I said "That would look great, ask your father to do it" W did not respond.
After the shows ended, I pulled out the telescope, went on the back deck and W joined me. After about 10 min W decided she wanted to go in and now she is laying down on the couch in the dark she said "I'll going to lay down here for a little bit" and so I went up to the bedroom.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
They had a big fight and he told the supervisor OIN's wife was pursuing him and he got his shifts changed...
I always qualify with "if" the affair is over and out of her head.. and I think its leaving now slowly...
I think it's been pretty well established that OM has been full of chit from the get-go as to what his relationship with OIN's wife has been, and who's been pursuing, etc.
