Your H is being true-to-form. All WAH tend to do these very things. I think they get really confused because, darnit, they were supposed to be in immediate elation when they got out from underneath their spouses, and whoa...they are just as unhappy as when they left, if not more unhappy. This seems to really irritate them and hence, the cold shoulder routine. My H continually gave me the cold shoulder each time after we have had a "good exchange". So consider it par for the course.
Besides, I see lots of positives, heck he took you to see his apt. I haven't been my dream house since I moved out 2 months ago! It seems he wants you to see where he lives and wants you to be comfortable with where your boys will be when not with you.
You go have a bang-up Thanksgiving. Enjoy being with yourself. It has taken me some time to do just that, but heck, it really is pretty fun. Shop for yourself some things, get a couple of great looking outfits, some new shoes, some new make-up, some new undies, etc. Have fun!
