Mila try not to over analyze. Remember MLC is all about selfishness. I am sure your h is oblivious to what he does. No thought into who is affected, but that he is doing as he chooses.
That is the sad reality.

Keep the focus on you and D and what you need to stay strong and move forward.

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"