My Husband Just Left Me

[BeingMe]

As ACJ said, you did very well dealing with your H and his "demands". I remember her sitch at that time, and how nervous she was, but she has come out on top. You have a right to take this slow. He left you, and you are entitled to know your legal rights, etc.

I can't understand his feelings about previous fights and his bottling it up, and yet he can have an EA (betraying you), associate with prostitutes (more betrayal). Does he think this will overcome his resentments? Not likely. I think these so-called 'resentments' are just excuses for bad behaviour. He's playing the blame game, and you should not allow him to do so. Surely, you had issues you may have built up with the same arguments, or are you the type that let things go, or there is no resentment to be had for you or, more importantly, him. (Hope this makes sense. My H also played this little game, or he didn't want confrontation, but everything I did or do is, in his mind, a confrontation, so they set you up for failure.) Both parties in a marriage has some blame for it going wrong, and both have the same responsibility for trying to get it right. Walking away, in my point of view, is a cowards way of dumping the blame and responsibility on the LBS. Yet, they still want to shower in the house they left, want to rush things, expect to stay on healthcare of their LBS, etc.

I say, make it difficult. Why should you surrender your rights to someone who would treat you this way? If he wants a D, he can do the work. If he wants to sell the house then he's going to have to go through the process of separation, then D, and so on.

Anyway, that's my thoughts on WAS's.