Thank you, everyone for all your support and help - keep it coming!
I know I over analyze everything but I just need advice.
It kind of felt like when my H came over today he almost was acting as if we were friends. I am very hurt right now and it seems like he just wants to get on with everything ("so, I want to put the house on the market right away"). But then he wanted to take a shower in our house. I'm just really confused as to all this.
He came over and asked if he could help fold the laundry - should I have said yes or act like I don't need help?
I'm trying to leave room open for reconciliation so if he reaches out in that way I dont know how to take it.
I just feel so deeply to the pit of my soul that this is saveable. He has already said that he is not sure if he can get over past resentments - he has bottled up all these fights and can't get over them. How do I move past that?
Do I make any contact with him at all? I'm assuming no.
Also, I know there is not another woman. After his affair I starting monitoring his computer and cell phone usage - I did this as a protection for myself. I do think that he idolized the affair and in his mind compared our relationship to the "perfection" of an affair. He never actually said this but I believe this is what he did.
