No Looking back on things , there were definetly things I could have been doing much differently, things that she even asked for in subtle ways I just wasnt paying attention. One big sign I apparently missed was when she said she had finally accepted the fact that housekeeping duties just wasnt something I thought of (laundry, dishes, cooking ) and she had learned to accept it. Which I took way to literally according to a friend of mine and several other people. I took it as " great ! I really dont need to worry about that stuff " when everyone is telling me that was the time I really should have jumped all over it.
I also thought that just her knowing that I would always be here, wouldnt cheat on her , etc was something she needed most. I mean I always said love you all the time, complimented her looks, was ALWAYS interested in sex, gave her encouragement, remembered little token gifts , cards , flowers at random times, etc. But where I fell far short was in not meeting the emotional needs she had in the way SHE needed them , as opposed to what I thought she needed.
This is exactly what happened to me. The housekeeping became a major issue with us. Although not an excuse for an affair with my work colleague IMHO. I failed to meet my WAW emotional needs on her terms too. I think I will probably regret this forever.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
