SA, don't be ashamed about that! Again, it is a consequence of his choice. Your emotions were still very raw and maybe you would have reacted differently further on, but it was right for you then for sure. It was a special tradition for the two of you.
SA - your reaction to the book gift was totally normal...nothing to be ashamed of. You were hurting and these MLC's are so insensitive when they do things....they have no idea or they don't care that it's hurting us. I have been there, some of the things he has done or not done or how he did them just drove the knife deeper into my heart.
I can't seem to get past him not acknowledging Mother's day...that was a big one for me. OK he left me but I'm still the mother of his child and especially now the only parent taking care of her. Would it kill him to send a card or an email that acknowledges that? Just "Thank you for being there for D" would have made my day.
Oh well this is what we have, so don't beat yourself up...it's not you it's your H that has issues.
Cheers
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
My H didn't acknowledge Mother's Day either except to tell D11 that he wouldn't be taking her being it was that holiday. I took the high road and thanked him in an email for that, but in my heart I think he was glad to have an excuse not to bother himself.
H texted D11 this am and asked what she was doing. She texted back and asked if they were going to see him today. He texted, probably not because ow was sick yesterday and that they needed to run errands today. Needless to say D11 and D17 were crying and angry because he sees ow everyday and them only once a week.
Again, trying not to analyze, but H is acting very wacky lately.
Remember, MLCers are incredibly selfish and will only do what makes them "happy." S
A, it stinks that your H is blowing off his Ds to run errands with OW. Just be glad you are not the parent who is doing things like that - that is not the kind of behavior they will associate with you.
My S has made comments about how I "know how" to love them more than H. It kills me to hear him say that but so grateful they know how much I love them.
She texted back and asked if they were going to see him today. He texted, probably not because ow was sick yesterday and that they needed to run errands today. Needless to say D11 and D17 were crying
That's bordering on cruel. He actually told them that he'd picked OW over them...how could he...at least make up some other story for not seeing them. Sick....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
TF, You're right MLC = Selfishness. I thank God I'm not the one who awakens one day and has to face the damage I've done. I don't think I could live with myself.
Mila, I truly don't believe my H gives it a second thought. In his fogged up brain he doesn't see anything wrong with his actions.
Well D17 just shot off an angry text to her dad thanking him for blowing off D11 and herself to run errands with ow whom he sees everyday. She said she now sees where his priorities lie.
I figure it's their R with him and I've stayed out of it.
