Anne,
FWIW I thought you did extremely well with handling the most recent situation. I remember that exact situation and the timings for me were similar. Listen very carefully to what you H says to you. For example when he asked you if you thought you might regret this someday he was probably projecting onto you what he was really feeling. Equally don't get your hopes up. That sounds cruel but believe me it is far worse to get your hopes up and they are crushed again than to just go with the flow for now.

Eat well, sleep as well as you can and see that L ASAP.


Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15