The Court of King Caractacus

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JacT, not sure which of many you are on FB. Check out the divorce busting page, I'm the only one on there with Lees at the start of my name!

I've had a pretty crap day at work. Feeling rather down, and that the world is just too damn unfair. One of my colleagues told me she ran into the two of them together in town and wanted to throw things at them on my behalf, which made me both happy and sad! Happy that someone else feels as strongly as I do about infidelity, but sad that they're obviously still happy whilst I have to force myself and expend all my energy just to appear so. Another one spent 10 minutes telling me it was sad that we no longer speak to each other and expensive to deal only via lawyers. I agreed it was sad, but as we have no need to communicate about anything with no kids and no shared property, it was just easier this way. Besides after what she's said and done, I don't think there's any going back anymore. He's been living apart from his wife for 9 months and is still hopeful they'll get back together, mind you they were together for over a decade and have kids. And I don't think there were any affairs involved. He was shocked when I said that the W and OW don't think they've done anything wrong at least.

One of my other colleagues asked if she'd gone mad. They all knew us as a couple and had been out with us on many an occasion. I said, in terms of clinically insane, no. In terms of tempted by an evil manipulative cow into an addictive affair, yes.

Re: someone else, I'm sure I could be enticed by the right woman. Just haven't met anyone that meets my standards yet. I also don't want to hurt anyone because I'm an emotional mess.

We can maybe meet somewhere in the middle? I've got a variety of mates coming to stay with me that week, but would love to escape for an afternoon. I used to do the commute to work at GRI so know the route to Glasgow well!

From what you've said JacT your hubby isn't living a life which is all rosy. He doesn't sound happy at all. I'm sure we'll get through this. Over it, I don't know. Depends on your definition. I think we'll learn to live with it.

I think I just need to be on my own to think for a while about everything. I need to learn to deal with the rage, the hurt and the betrayal. I need to learn to forget about it and get on with my life unencumbered.