still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Thanks, WN! I watched it and wow, it does sound like what I am doing but they also suggested adding music. I have a perfect song in mind "Whatever it Takes" by Lifehouse! I had another epiphany....

I did check out The Secret website and read some testimonials about relationships. I tried to focus on those that brought an ex back. Actually, of the ones I checked, most hadn't succeeded "at that time" or "yet" (as they put it). One person said that we need to remember that we don't have power over another person (duh) so we can only control ourselves and the Secret may not be effective in getting someone else to do something you want.

WELL what we all know that we do have control over ourselves. MWD says that one person CAN change a relationship because when we change our behavior, it causes a chain reaction in our spouse. (no guarantees of course)

ANYWAY what I am getting at is that I think I will continue to visualize WH coming to me to tell me he wants to R but I will need to incorporate him telling me things that I have been doing that led him to decide to end the A and be with me...

during these last several weeks he really missed me; he felt himself being attracted to me again, he was curious about me, he never stopped loving me, he respected what I was doing, and he realized he couldn't bring himself to divorce me because he doesn't want to lose me and when he would think of the future, he saw it with me and S, not OW. He will "do whatever it takes to turn this around" (I know, sounds Hollywood Fairy Tale-ish but shoot for the moon and you will reach the stars!)

Again, strangely, I see another path of acceptance of D but it is fuzzy- My main focus is on R and D is a possibility INSTEAD of focus being on D and R is a possibility...quepiche?

it's like when you are driving on the freeway and you need to get somewhere by a certain time. You can see break lights on from cars up ahead, but you don't know if the break lights mean cars are piling up do to an accident or if they are just temporarily slowing down. Just in case, you picture what exit you can take and what alternate road you can follow to get you to the destination. Still, you stay on the freeway until you get more information to make that decision!