Libby I just wanted to ad a thought about the "trowing money at the kids"
Mine buys D gifts (clothes) every time he goes and visits OW. It alleviates their guilt. Probably because that's the only time they see a smile and happiness towards them when the kid opens the present (gets money). It's like buying their love.
In my case D knows that ow helps him pick out the presents, so that is just rubbing it in for her. Last time she even asked him and he said "yes OW picked out that top but I picked out this one. Guess which top she never wears....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
