Thank you all - Hope you are are having a great weekend
AJ - yes...after 36 years together...you kind of mesh together...you know each other so well, you anticipate each others actions and reactions....and you kind of almost become one entity, compensating for each others shortcomings (yes we all have some) and you form expectations about how the other one will act & react.
Well he betrayed me and he broke that bond and the rules have to change. My actions and reactions have to change also. I'm not willing to compensate for his shortcoming any longer. He still obviously expects me to and I do have the urge to "rescue" him and be there for him as always....but the game has become very one sided and I can't allow that. You are right new boundries have to be set.
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Lifesaving steps: start the breathing (done), stop the bleeding(this phase), treat the wound (next), treat for shock (last).
I'm stopping the bleeding
DG - Thanks I will get the book...:)
Snoderly - thank you. Despite of what WH is doing, he still expects me to be by his side and not only tolerate his behavior, but also to make him feel better about himself and to approve of what he is doing...how twisted is that?
Ilike & TF - Thank you - It's about self preservation now he is on his own
M&H - I also wonder what he will do next. In his current state of mind he is probably angry with me and can't believe that "I'm doing this to him"
GAG - I hope that they have weekend from hell...they are both riddled with guilt and doubts...hard to push that aside to enjoy their "honeymoon"
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