Even though she didn't directly come out and talk about your xh, she was relying on the "old" you to talk. I've always said that a dog that brings a bone will carry one and I will bet my last dollar she spills her guts to the family about what you are doing.
It's all very strange that she would ring you up after the mess of the time share.
I've been reading and watching the news about the area and I'm very sorry to see so much destruction.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
