Catching up on your thread this a.m.:) You sound like you are doing well. I am like you - I need to understand all I can about MLC, etc. It does help me to be able to deal with it all.
This question about the feelings for the LBS, pride, etc. have been on my mind a lot lately with where I seem to be in the journey and here it is being discussed on your thread.
BTW, I'm sure it was hard that your H had your D pick out the book at Christmas since it was always a thing he did. Maybe it was one of those things where in the twisted MLC mind he was afraid he would be sending you the "wrong message." I see it as a positive that he didn't forgo the tradition altogether, even if it wasn't picked out by him.