I'm from Bay Ridge. My sis is still there so I am often in my beloved Brooklyn.

My h was in the house for 17 months post bomb. I know how very difficult it is to detach when they are in the home. To tell you the truth, my real detaching came when he was gone. It's so hard when they are right there. So, dont be too hard on yourself, ok?

I am almost three years in, and there are times when I am still not completely and fully detached. Each day, it gets a little easier, slowly but surely. You'll get there.

Try to think of your w as a neighbor that you say hi to over a fence. Be cordial and polite, but, try not to pay too much mind to what she is doing and why. Take the, 'who cares what the heck she is doing because she is a little nutty right now' attitude. As I say, h has to put the cuckoo back in the clock, ya know?

Good for you that you realize the changes will take time. That is when they stick.

And the knickerbockers, um, let's go Yankees? LOL!

Hang in there, sweetie. This is a journey you were meant to go on. And I can promise you, you will learn and grow and be the person you were meant to be.

By the way, they are redoing Coney Island. Most of it was sold off to build condos, but, the cyclone is still there. No place like Brooklyn.

Last edited by Brooklyn; 05/23/10 03:10 PM.