FHS, LOL - You must have me mixed up with somebody else. Don't have any wallpapering going on right now.
I still catch myself trying to evaluate some of the things my H does/says. I'm working hard on trying to change that aspect about myself. I'm doing a lot better, although once in a while something happens that gets my curiosity going as I do find the mind of a MLCer fascinating at times....
I have finally learned not to let the things that H does or says upset me like they used to. I realize that he does not feel, act, or think like the man I married. I have stopped projecting the way I think or feel on to him because I believe that's the way he should feel or used to feel pre MLC. Hope I'm making sense here. For example, for past Christmases H would always buy me a book by a favorite author. Out of all his gifts, it's the one I would look most forward to. He would inscribe a beautiful message to me inside the cover. It meant the world to me and he knew it. Last Christmas, when he took our D's out shopping for me he let my D17 pick out a book by that author as one of her presents to me. What I had always held close to my heart as a special gift from him to me no longer meant the same to him. So many things that I held near and dear are now just memories as the man I married is aboard the mothership.
I have learned to accept the way it is and know there is nothing I can do to fix him. I can, however, fix myself and am busy with that...
