At this time I am so fustrated, I am hoping someone can offer some advise. I am brand new and apologize for not following all the rules regarding appreviation etc.
ME=44 WIFE=36 MARRIED=9 DAUGHTER=8 SON=3.5 FINANCIAL STRUGGLING, BOTH HAVE NEW JOBS AFTER BEING OUT OF WORK FOR ABOUT A YEAR.
My wife has decided (this is not a sudden revelation to me) that she hates me, hates the kids, hates her family, hates the community and the neighborhood, hates the house, hates our jobs, and hates her friends. She says I lied to her, and that I am gay (there are sexual issues with me – maybe related to sexuality – but have never had any interest to be with another man). She says I don't really love her, which she has stated many times during our marriage. She hates my eating habits, my sleeping habits, I cough to much, I eat too much, I lie, I am a pig, I am mentally unbalanced and psychiatric help, I am a poor provider, I am disrespectful, etc.
She said I forced her into marriage, and forced her to move into the community that she hates (I moved her closer to her family – who do not treat her nicely either). She upset that I am not a better provider, but need to take care of the children and clean the house. She wants to move to another city, and has no clue why we are not moving (we have no savings, no credit, we owe more then the house is worth, etc.)
She said that moving is the only way to make her happy. She outed me out of my last position because she hated my boss, after he let me go, she said get a job. Got a nice job, but no benefits, we managed to get on medicaid. Now I have a better job with flex schedule, that allows me to help with the children, however its a new company and I am the only official employee – no benefits. Now we need a job with a full benefit package in another city.
I am in the process of taking the CPA exam and work full time. In addition to those things, I get the children up every morning, get them dressed, breakfast, and out the door for school. I am also responsible for them on weekends, holidays and school breaks, I have to clean the house (kitchen, nook, family room and living room, spotless everyday otherwise if she sees a crumb on the floor she will go into a tirade. I also bath the children, put them to bed, and read to them on a nightly basis (one of my favorite activities). I am responsible for all the family finances which she really does not contribute – sometimes with the children. She makes nasty comments if the finances do not go her way (such as making the car payment a day later to avoid overdraft, or if I spend money on ME).
Thank you for allowing me to unload, and if anyone has any suggestions, thank you.
