SA, Their love for the lbs never truly dies...it's buried so deeply while they are in crisis, but as they awaken and the depression lessens, their feelings begin to thaw out. No matter that you are separated, divorced or completely moved on, the feelings that they had will always be there in some form. Some have too much pride to admit it and others will freely admit it. It all depends upon the person.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
