Pam, I think you have a point there, that by not confronting the problem (me) my ILs can stick their heads in the sand and pretend this isn't all happening. Just do the big mental erase of me.
Dotto, in an odd way, it is nice to hear that someone else has gone through this, it is their loss. My boss called them emotionally un-courageous. She thinks I should extend the olive branch for the sake of my sons and to also be the first one to do something mature in the relationship. I'm thinking about that one. I am much too angry and sarcastic at the moment, but thinking of doing it via email. Will run it by here first, as I don't want sarcasm to get the best of me. Going to start and try some arranging with H to get away for the Boston weekend.
Water--lets keep reminding ourselves of actions speak volumes. I think this goes with what Sue is saying, we choose how to respond to this and what we will do. it is up to us to pick the reactions and the next steps we take. We are worth it and if they are too dumb to figure it out, well, we will survive and thrive, but will they?
Opt, thanks for hugs, always needed.
Mockers, you are wonderful. Thank you for that list. It looks fairly impressive, I can't believe it is me! The small things add up.
I am working on my goals and working at letting my anger at ILs go. The boys go to H's house for first overnight tomorrow night, they can't wait. Jumping for joy at the prospect. Breaks my heart, but not letting it show.
After a two month hiatus, I returned to karate class tonight. I can be eligible to test for my next belt in three weeks, but I need to get on the ball and re-learn what I have forgotten. Gives me a goal. I hurt everywhere, in two months I undid 10 months of work. But, not more hiding under the covers, time to reclaim life.
