you have to decide how much progress you are making and if its worth YOUR time to continue it or ask her to go and move on...
You just keep a look out for those positive signs, they are there... They won't be consistent, she's going to have good and bad days...
I agree with this, as I stated yesterday. However, I think that her "good days" need to be defined by IS SHE MAKING STATEMENTS (at a minimum) AND ACTIONS (preferred) THAT DEMONSTRATE A DESIRE TO RECONCILE THE MARRIAGE. Not "is she messing around with the dogs with me," "playing Family Feud on the bed" or "not being a total shrew."
Yes, some of their playful interactions are getting better. But genuine affair-has-ended, marital reconciliations are marked by good days and bad days and on the good days the formerly-wayward spouse doesn't still say they're divorcing you, and their continued venom toward the betrayed spouse (on its face, very normal) is followed up almost immediately by contrition ("I'm sorry I was such a b*tch yesterday; this is just all very hard for me," or some such).
THAT is the step I'll be looking for, along with HONESTY and RESPECTFUL BEHAVIOR TOWARD OIN.
