These are examples of what I meant by standing up to her. Why do you care if she says you manipulate her? Remember the time she poured syrup all over you and screamed in your face? It's times like that that you need to "man-up".
Get those S papers completed. Have you tried to hide them? Make no bones about what you're doing. Allen is giving great advice.
Don't fear her anger. You are the head of the home. Put your pants on and show your children how their father will protect them during a time such as this.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
