The U-haul has come and I should go

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Hi Jackie

(((((Jackie))))

You are very strong. And you show this to your H, your children and all of us every day.
1. You get up every day.
2. You take care of yourself.
3. You feed, care for and love two children.
4. You have not left.
5. You took the boys to Disney by yourself.
6. You are concerned for the feelings of others, including those who have hurt you.
7. You are maintaining a stable home for the boys - they feel secure in your love.
8. You are showing your H compassion, patience, understanding and what it means to be there for better or worse.
9. You have told your mom what you need from her right now.
10. Your sense of humor is terrific.
11. You reach out to all of us every day here.


I know you probably don't feel strong right now, but looking in from the outside, you look strong to me. When you're living it, it's almost impossible on some days to feel how strong you are. In the time after my H moved out, I remember feeling like I wasn't sure I could take another step. I'm not trying to talk you out of your feelings. Just wanted you to know the strength I see in you.

yet she didn't even call to check how I was doing after H walked out on his family.

This was true for me as well. I couldn't believe they stayed so silent. My FIL called a couple of times after my H went to work out of town, but never said anything about what has been going on. My MIL said something only very recently. It is very hurtful. I finally decided that they didn't know what to say, they felt so badly about what H has done. I think psluke said it perfectly ~

I think if I don't exist they don't have to see their son walked out on his wife.

Good for you having your party! I would like to try a chocolate martini!

Keep hanging in there, Jackie. You are an inspiration to me and to so many others here. I promise the pain will ease some. Use this time for you. To do things you've been wanting to do for yourself. Treat yourself gently.


Going to Boston sounds like alot of fun! Wish I could go!