I got your message this evening on the alt, but FB seems to have "ate" my reply. So, I'll try to recap it here.
I know the sick feeling you are feeling right now in the pit of your stomach. I know what you're now going through. A little surprise. Disgust. Yet more betrayal. A little anger and hurt. Fear for your children. Uncertainty. And a large degree of offense. And another part of you is likely shrugging your shoulders at the inaneness of these continual petty antics of your ex.
I am sorry about your new sitch. I know it is a matter our of anyone's hands, but it is just not right all the same. I am sorry, for your sake, for all the grief you have had to endure from your ex, including this latest. I am especially sorry for your children, that their father continues to demonstrate the heights of selfishness and deception, now under the guise of M. It is not right that he and OW can now attempt a claim on legitimacy, to abuse the sanctity of M, after having so totally disregarded it. And to confuse the lines between Right and Wrong before your own son and daughter is a crime that is beyond measure.
Some people will advise you to "play along" and accept their M as legitimate, especially for your two kids, "for the children's sake at least". While I try to say nothing, I still do not understand the so-called "wisdom" of condoning sinful behavior even if (especially if) it is white-washed in the false trappings of what should be a God-given institution.
Guess that makes me a hard-liner in the eyes of some. Maybe so. I just feel one can bend things only so far before it becomes too distorted out of shape to have any real meaning.
So many people will bemoan the sad state of M today, but then do nothing even in their own hearts about it. It is all just lip service.
(And if you dare open your mouth about it, then suddenly you're the bad guy. Topsy-turvy indeed.)
Yes, we can and will learn to let it go, with time. We will endure and move onward. But it still does not make it right.
