I hope you can make the trip. You are welcome to stay here. Marchare is coming also.
As for the in-laws same with me. The last time they spoke to me was at my step son's wedding Memorial Day weekend. I must admit I was initially upset, now I don't care. I am glad my family has taken the high road and is treating H as they always have with love, friendship and respect.
Like you I was not the favored DIL. My MIL is angry because she wasn't asked to do anyhting for the wedding and I was very involved. I am very close to my DIL and her Mom. They were wonderful including me in everything.
Remember it's their loss. When I asked H the other day he also attacked. Said they are upset with me for the way I handled the D and alimony. Oh well.