I suggested that he let her know that HE NEEDED TO CONSIDER IF HE WANTS TO REMAIN in such a relationship. (And I even surprise myself that I am taking such a Gnosis approach here.) These are relatively gentle words, and I think still in the realm of catching flies with honey.
Yes, if you withdraw the "you're not a prize" approach I agree with you... And OIN has spoken up when she was disrespectful to him on a conference call.. he's not just being a complete doormat here.
I just don't know if this is the best time to go on the offensive... I am inclined on waiting a bit to see what impact the mess at work has on her attitude here...
If OM is completely out of her head for over a month and OIN hasnt' seen the slightest improvement in her attitude I would consider changing strategies...
But as long as there is any fantasizing about OM here or cheating THAT should be the subject of issue because they clearly at that point don't CARE about acting like a wife anymore so asking them gently to accept that role is pointless
