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[awest1217]

This is actually the first time in 4 years that I am making the house mine. The landscaping was whatever the renters before us did and it wasn't the greatest because they are renters. Plus there were no flowers. I still have some planting and tidying up to do, but it looks so much better. It just looks more friendly, which is all what I wanted. I want somewhere that people feel welcome, which my friend who stopped by last night said my house always feels cozy so that makes me feel good.

Bad is I had to once again have it out with my step-dad, slightly. My youngest sister is 21 and has some money issues. I blame this on my mom and step-dad because they spend money like it is going out of style. My mom I don't know what she buys, and my step-dad redoes the entire house every year. He does something, never finishes, then starts all over again the next year. So my sister although living at home, is now in major debt. My parents have helped this, but now my step-dad just says how it is all her fault. Who here thinks it is ok to cosign an open credit loan for a 19 year old? NO ONE! that is suicide. Plus there is some stuff about the VA that I don't know what is going on, but we get money while in school because our dad was in the navy when he passed away. So I am taking over once again being mom to my little sister. I have done this ever since my dad died, but it is a lot. She is really not that bad off, but I have to discipline her and really put her on a leash... My step-dad started to complain (he is a jerk anyway) so I just let him know calmly and strictly what I thought was happening with VA and then also reminded him that he filed for bankruptcy and then bought a brand new mustang in the same month...so he should be a little more compassionate with a 21 year old and teach her and maybe do better himself instead of yelling at her. He didn't like that too much so after helping at my house with the bushes and eating dinner...he left quickly, and I don't care because he needs to be put in his place and I feel that I can do that now because if he doesn't want to help me out, I will get someone else.

I called H to let him know about my sister because they were always close and to let him know that if I am short with him, it is because of my stress with this and not him (at least right now). He didn't answer so I tried to leave a message and my phone went haywire. I called again thinking he wouldn't answer, but he did so I told him and he gave me some suggestions. I think it was a load off to him becuase he sounded a little afraid when he answered (I am sure because of the e-mail), but I said this was nothing about him and I was just letting him know that he shouldn't take it personally since I am stressed about my fam.

All in all so far a good weekend. I have a little to do tomorrow and i would like to buy a few more flowers, but I am not going to because I need to save my $ so I am just going to be happy with what I have accomplished and leave it at that.