I am perplexed also as to why it is so threatening to suggest to the wife that she should actually act like a wife. All kinds of shenanigans are suggested rather than just flat out speaking the truth. Horrors! What if a husband and wife spoke to each other and said what they think and feel! Would the world stop?
I come from a family that never thought twice about telling one of us that he/she needed to "shape up or ship out", "get with the program", or be reminded that he/she "is not God's gift to the world". People often need these reminders, or they go around taking advantage of those closest to them. It's just human nature. If two people are going to get along over the longterm, they need to be able to speak frankly to each other. I don't believe I said OIN should give his wife an ultimatum that the marriage was over if she didn't say thank you for the ride. I suggested that he let her know that HE NEEDED TO CONSIDER IF HE WANTS TO REMAIN in such a relationship. (And I even surprise myself that I am taking such a Gnosis approach here.) These are relatively gentle words, and I think still in the realm of catching flies with honey.
