I wholeheartily reccomend a softball approach ones there's no interloper attacking the marriage from the outside...
And I said that pretty clear I think... IF the OM is GONE from her head, and the withdrawal is gone you can be more inviting then and DBing is a lot easier...
It IS a lot easier to convince someone to cooperate with you when the temptation to escape doesn't have a face and a voice... Why play hardball if it isn't necessary?
