4 days since exposure and signs that it had an impact.
OM pissed he's been outed.
Hoping a "friend" of marriage has arrived on scene with W. Can't say for sure, but I'm hoping it's in the form of help for our marriage and not just enabling support.
E, what exactly did you SAY when you exposed to these people?
Do you have the exact text of the email?
There are clumsly ways to expose, and highly effective ways to expose.. I am just not sure which route you took since I don't see a sample exposure letter in the thread anywhere.
You will need to follow up after the exposure, you can't just send an email out and hide from yoru friends and family.
The BEST thing to do is to keep in contact with htem AFTER you send out the letters.
Me 37 Waw 32 son2 bomb 8/11/09 O/M 12/25/09 Divorce filed 8/25/09 divorce finale 6/16/10 Divorce putt on hold 6/16/10 Divorce postponed STBXW idea 8/8/10
In a nutshell, I told them what I witnessed, explained that we are still married and I was comitted to saving my marriage and that his presence was unwelcome and inappropriate. I asked if they would support me and respect my marriage by letting them know that this relationaship was inappropriate. I was VERY respectful, not a bit malicious, and not begging and pleading.
Thanks Puppy! I must admit, I have stunned myself with just how maturely I've handled this so far. I'm devastated and heartbroken, but I've kept true to the changes I've made in myself, and not let myself go over to the "Dark Side of the Force". I wasn't confrontational, didn't explode with anger, haven't blamed anyone and I haven't acted out of malice or revenge. I basically said I know what's going on, it's unacceptable and damaging to my family and marriage, and it must stop.
After exposure, OM had told me to keep away from his family. I told him in no uncertain terms that he was a threat to my family, and I would if he would agree to stay away from my wife. He said OK.
